Words at Christmas

As I sat down to write this blog today, I had been praying and asking God what he wanted me to share. I thought of the words listened to, spoken, and shared at Christmas. And how very difficult it can be for some who have experienced a loss to listen, accept, or speak some words at Christmas. Words and phrases that were so easily spoken before now seem to be difficult. Many of the words and phrases are deeply entrenched with memories of loved ones. And it can feel easier to avoid words, phrases, or songs at these times. From my heart to yours, Merry Christmas, and may God bless you with new memories, and opportunities to enjoy the Christmas season.

This third Christmas without Ken has become easier for me to listen to, speak, and share words of Christmas, including singing carols and living in the moment now. Dark clouds and rain seemed to threaten my days over the past few years, it was hard to escape, so I just accepted it and trusted God to lead me through it. This Christmas season has become just an occasional break in the clouds with some sprinkles, well sometimes a full-out drenching, but not like years past. I needed to get through the dark times to fully appreciate each day now. The sun is shining through and reminding me that this life is still vital and important to God, and me. While my husband is no longer with me, my purpose in life did not leave with him.

This Christmas season I am making new memories each day. Accepting and embracing the differences as well as the new opportunities. And being okay with just taking my time and enjoying the rest and peace of the season. All the while jumping in wherever Gramma is wanted.

This morning as I was walking into church, I just happened to bump into a kind woman, a new friend, I had met a few months ago. (of course, not a coincidence). A moment later I was being asked to sing Christmas Carols with a Special Needs group of teens.  I was so very blessed to share with these very special teens, their leaders, and their families. I knew of this program, but experiencing it firsthand today, I have a new appreciation for a church that provides programs for special needs children through adults. They just might see me volunteering more in the future.

With 34 Christmas memories with Ken, there is much to recall and reminisce about him during this season. I am so very grateful for all of those years and how they brought me to where and who I am today. Words heard or spoken at Christmas can bring a twinge of sadness and at other times a smile and laughter. My memory book with Ken is so very full!

I do not believe we are letting go of our loved ones by sharing words or other sentiments at Christmas. But instead honoring the one who Is no longer with us and stepping forward into this new journey without them. But keeping the spirit and purpose of Christmas in one’s heart and mind.

Not at all sure what the words in this poem will mean to you. I just typed, did minor corrections, and added it to the blog today.

WORDS

The same words are spoken.

but the meaning has changed.

Some words hold memories,

Connected with a name.

Words that were meant to help,

may be unopened on a shelf,

Joining other cards and letters,

They were sent to make one better.

The words have not changed,

But they don’t feel the same.

In time they take on new meanings,

Even through the deepest grieving.

Words cannot stop being shared,

From those who deeply care.

Those words that were so easy then,

Can be hard to say again.

But holding onto yesterday,

without looking at today,

can leave little room for words anew

that are being spoken to you.

Speak those words again with intentionality

As you speak new life into today’s reality.

The cherished memories of years gone by,

Will never leave you or try to hide.

Receiving words from those around you,

Can lift you up, as love surrounds you.

And when the time feels right to share,

Your words to others will show you care.

Words can be shared wherever you are,

They carry a message near and far.

Your words, those you were avoiding,

Can now be a gift that you are bringing.

Share the words that were hard to hear,

speak them out loud and clear.

For when you have a word to share,

You can also add a prayer.

For others who are just at the start

May need your words to reach their heart.

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May God bless and encourage you this Christmas Season as you receive and/or share words of encouragement, love and affirmation to those around you.

May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.
Rmoans 15:13

Pati

What word or phrase means the most to you at Christmas time?