Click and Gone….

Click and gone. Another step that needed to be taken on this journey. Although it’s been a year since my beloved passed it became time to delete his social media accounts. Which should be a simple as going in deactivating clicking and having it gone. Yes and no.

The first click was LinkedIn; much to my surprise his account was already gone and every indication of him ever have being on LinkedIn. That hit me pretty hard that his professional presence his encouragement for others his legacy completely gone. A lesson learned and perhaps for someone else to go into social media accounts and take snapshots of anything you want to hang onto after a loved one is gone.

Twitter click was next. When we were compiling Ken’s passwords and sites while he was alive that I would need to manage later I completely forgot Twitter. I have no way of deleting his account had to send a message directly to Twitter.

Moving on next to Facebook. Another lesson I am so very glad we set up his legacy account for me to manage after his death. However as it became time to delete his account I scrolled through his Facebook posts over the years some of which I don’t think I ever saw. I took screenshots from my phone to save memorable posts in his personal album. I read Messages and notes from so many through the years. Looking at the pictures I could not stop the tears seeing him as a wonderful husband father son grandfather and friend. I was reminded of his life and impact that’ll be felt by all of us for many years to come. And oh how I miss that contagious smile.

I found that deleting my husbands social media profile was somehow removing him from where he had participated and made his presence known to others. However The sad and harsh reality is that he is gone. LinkedIn had already removed him and it was just a matter of time for his fading into the distance or being removed from other platforms. And It was up to me to complete the deactivation of his accounts. Click and gone indeed.

I have boxes of pictures and other notable items that Ken compiled or saved through the years that I can access anytime I want privately or with a family member or friend.While I can no longer look for Ken on social media It feels right to me at this time to have checked off one more thing from my list of tasks to complete after Ken‘s death. Of note there are some things on the Internet with Ken’s image voice and video of projects previously done that are still there which I have no control over.

Putting things in boxes or putting things off until I was ready to click the button so to speak was good for me. I am thankful for the opportunity to have prepared with Ken before his death as well as waiting for the time this past year to process and complete tasks. Some of the best advice I received was to put things away for another day. That advice has served me well.

Click and gone. Sounds so simple and in some ways it is. Ken told me just a few weeks before he died to remember that my life would be over soon too even if it’s another 30 years for me! And that we have eternity to live together with Jesus.

And so another step another task completed and done. Doing my best to keep my eyes focused forward and not dwelling on the past but thanking God for all he has blessed me with through Ken. And looking forward to the future.

Thank you again for sharing this journey with me as I begin to live the next chapter of my life. May God bless you and encourage you through whatever journey or chapter you are experiencing in your own life.

Trust in the lord with all your heart And do not rely on your own understanding; In all your ways know him and he will make your paths straight. Proverbs 3:5,6 CSB